Commitment To Love

“I Love you. So Much. That I want to make you happy. I need to make you happy for me to even have a shot at being happy. Will you marry me?” says Ben Affleck on his knees to the love of his life in the latest flick ‘He’s Just Not That Into You.’

Are people really in love these days, or are they actually in love with the idea of being in love? Do people these days know what love is? Did people know what love was in the past? To the last question, ‘Yes,’ people in the past did know what love was. These days, some days more than others, it’s a bit lost and undiscovered.

My experience has taught me that most often we are always going after what we can’t get. If someone is too into us, we get turned off. If someone is not too into us, but is into others, then that becomes a challenge, and now we want what we don’t have. It’s the drama that we desire to be present in our lives, which without it, life would seem dull!

We grow up experiencing love through our parents first, then television, and then our peers. Before venturing off to discover it on our own. It doesn’t matter if growing up you were pampered with love from your parents, or that you grew up in a broken family, or a abusive, negative environment. Your desire to be in that love that you imagined from all the different experiences that made you who you are today is still the same.

So what happens sometimes or most of the time to people in love, looking for love, trying to discover love? VANITY happens! When you have all that you ever wanted standing in front of you, and start thinking, could there be someone better. Right then and there you are not ready for love or commitment. You have a wondering eye and mind, which is like a trojan horse, looking to be on that wild ride for either a few months, a few years or a lifetime. Vanity is a test to that road to love. If you pass it, I am pretty confident that you are on your way to discovering love, you just need your other partner to be on the same page as you, and then you are all set.

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