Cypress Hill

We all at some point or another in our lifetime reach a breaking point, or a melt down, and feel that we are either going to explode or kill somebody. These times and moments thereafter, are a journey in which the human race has fallen hard.

We ask for strength when we are at our weakest and darkest hour. We fail to understand that everything that we ask from God, he has already given to us. To him we are already that perfect luxury car. No upgrades needed. What we don’t know is the value in which we live our life. We always seek what we don’t have, and once we have it, we get bored, and want something else. Our selfish state of mind is our greatest enemy and very few of us find that true balance in our lives. If we did, we all would be the ‘Dalai Lama’ of our world.

Try standing in the middle of a street of the most busiest intersection in your city and you will soon notice the stress of people in cars, on the sidewalks looking at you to get out of their way. You will see people giving you the finger, swearing, honking their car horns. If you stay for another few moments, you will start to see their anger increase to a higher level. Here is the challenge as you stand there. Take notice that the anger being unleashed at you standing there, is not at you, but rather stemming from the people’s pain and suffering in their daily lives. What you are seeing and feeling all around you, is nothing more than one view point of a particular lifestyle. But that does not need to be you, and you don’t need all those people changing the way you feel from the inside outside. If they were the Dalai Lama’s of their world, they will all come and embrace you to ask you what is wrong, rather than burst out negative thoughts and energy at first glance. Right after that, go up to the tallest building roof top and look around, and look down at where you were standing moments ago. Nothing has changed, except that now you are seeing things from a different perspective. Everything is calm, peaceful, and you can hear birds, and feel the wind.

That is life at every corner of our choices. I grew up in Vancouver, and there was a place I would go to often. It was a place where I could think, clear my head, and get away from the noise of life. The place was cypress hill mountain. I would always go at night, where I could see the Stanley Park lights, water, plans taking off and landing, downtown Vancouver. To me, I felt above the little things in life and as I would look down at the millions of people going about their way in life and imagine how many are still right then and there having issues, yelling, and stressing over matters that really don’t help with anything, except put them backwards in life. I would sit there thinking about a lot of things. I felt at times, how if there was a God, how he must feel looking down at all his children. He must be laughing his head off at all the silly things that we are doing, and how far away from purity, harmony and peace we are all living. But again, I am not God, only human.

The most memorable times for me up on that hill was breaking down in pain. And I had years of it, and I would at times scream at everything around me. I could do that at 2am in the morning, because there was not a soul around me for miles. Nothing but a viewpoint of nature all around me. I would scream, I would cry, until I could not anymore. There is nothing like having a really good cry. It’s a great stress release. I found years later that those screams and pain did not go unheard. But, I wondered who heard them? The fibre of energy all around me heard me, and it hears us all, we just have to listen and be ready to hear it. The remedy of pain is to embrace it, not run away from it. Without pain, there is no gain.

I recently have been getting hundreds of emails from people who are stuck at that spot in life, and they are wondering how to get themselves out. They want and need and ask for my help. I have had emotional men email me that they want to take their life, because they cannot be with the one they love. I read so much pain in people and I wish I could clone myself to help them all. But, after thinking about it, I thought, helping people is one thing, having them understand what they are going through is another matter completely. You can’t help someone if they will not understand or come to terms with what is happening or needs to happen in order for them to change their state of mind.

A friend of mine recently told me about his recent love and how everything is going so well. Then he paused, and looked up at me. I asked him, “But…”

“But, she says she is difficult and that I need to bare with her. What does that mean?” he says.

My first reaction was, be careful. When someone says they are difficult to deal with at the starting of a relationship, what they are saying is, they are going to play games with your head, so get ready. And most likely they will be using their past as a pillar not to move forward in the relationship, or take it really slow, and justify it by saying, “I told you I was difficult.”

“What do I do,” he says.

“Have no expectations at all. As she is treading on water, not swimming. You on the other end are already in the ocean waiting for her. It could work out, or you could just get frustrated with the games and delays. Either way, take it easy, and slow down, “ I told him.

People move through life at different paces. We are not all the same, but we should not all be from different planets either. Otherwise we are all going to be living a single life in our minds, even if we are with someone. I myself am a romantic at heart, and would not have the time to wait around, as time is precious, and life is short. When love happens, we should be embracing it with open arms. Not step back and tell ourself that this is too good to be true. Finding love is like winning the lottery. If you won 10 million dollars, would you tell the lottery corporation that you need to take your time and that you might be difficult? The difference is not much, as the lottery is something you invested in, paid for and won. We invest in life, and we hope to meet that special someone, and we wait. When it happens, the reaction is the same as winning the lottery. To a lot of people love gets to their head. and they lose themselves Then again so does all that money. More money, more love, more problems. Is the single life beginning to look a lot better now? Don’t worry, have faith, take a chance, and see what is in front of you, as it can be all yours. You just need to communicate and not lose your head. Or should I say, get all head over heels over your love.

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Written by: Raaj Kapur Brar

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